Why Boudoir Photography?
The human body- its curves, markings, wrinkles, scars, and all its intricacies- creates a canvas of the life we have lived. Our body is a powerful and beautiful reminder of the battles we have won; of the warriors that we are. We should not feel the need to hide it because it doesn’t fit the unachievable standards society has created for us. Instead, we should be proud of our scars. Be proud of the battles and challenges we have overcome. And accept our body no matter how imperfect it feels to us.
Boudoir photography, to me, is what helps us not only accept the body we have, but it helps us fall back in love with it. It empowers us to challenge what the “perfect” body is and kick all the expectations put on us by media, magazines, and society to the curb. We are each created uniquely, and that is what should be celebrated. Boudoir photography is about the transformation that takes place between the time you walk in my studio and walk back out that door. It is about feeling beautiful, and that is something I believe every person deserves.
The transformation that takes place in our studio is the best part of the whole experience for me. When a woman arrives in my studio most of the time, she’s excited, but a bit nervous. The shaky hands and voice, sometimes sweaty palms and face. I start by introducing her to my amazing hair and makeup artist and getting her comfortable in her chair. I have her favorite music playing, and her favorite drink ready to go. I also hand her a notebook of love notes written by past girls that sat in that same chair before her, filled with love, positivity, and words of encouragement to help her start her boudoir journey. The three of us then talk about anything and everything (think a girl’s date out type of vibe!) and usually the nerves dissipate. This is when the transformation begins.
After hair and makeup, the shoot starts. I give some tips and tricks to help get those sultry faces you always see but never believe you can do on command, and I start helping you pose from head to toe. Don’t worry, I will get down and show you every pose first myself and then help you get into it (which is always entertaining to watch, because my butt is not flexible at all!). Right off the bat, I show you the back of the camera so you can see all the crazy posing I’m having you do is actually working! I usually hear ‘Oh my god that’s me!? I can’t believe I look like that!” Girllll, yes, yes you do!
After that, we bounce around my three different rooms in the studio and pose your butt against all the furniture and walls while singing along to your favorite songs, sipping on wine, and capturing everything that makes you beautiful!
By the time we finish the session and go into the reveal, we’re friends. We’ve just shared an experience that will always be remembered by both of us. We’ve left and shared stories about our lives.
This is when I send my new friend out to grab some food while I go through all their beautiful images, choose the best ones, and lately edit them. When you come back, BOOM! You get to see all your photos that same day! Nothing like instant gratification 🙂 We go through them together (once I reassure you that yes, that is truly you and you are truly that sexy and stunning!), And help choose your products.
This is my absolute favorite part, because you finally see yourself like you never have before. You get to see yourself through the eyes of your partner, the eyes of your loved ones, and everyone else who has seen your beauty this entire time.
A Little piece of my Story
We all go through a point in our lives where the future we imagined is shattered and we have to give up control to be able to move forward. This is a point in which we often learn the most about ourselves, and also provides us with an amazing opportunity to grow. For me it was when I became majorly depressed while also struggling with my relationship. It was difficult for me to admit my depression, because I have always been a light-hearted, optimistic individual. However when that optimism was replaced constant worry, overthinking, breaking down a few times a day, and feeling emotionally numb to everything, I knew this wasn’t how I wanted to live my life and something needed to change.
I started going to therapy began to unravel all the causes and contributors of my depression. Along the way we discovered that I had developed many unhealthy views about sex and intimacy growing up affected how I viewed myself.
Therapy gave me the confidence to book a boudoir session 6 months out for myself. It became a beacon of the progress I had made and gave me something to work towards in our therapy. It’s safe to say that my boudoir session was a life changing experience. The confidence-boost it gave me seeing myself in a different light was amazing. Photos that beforehand I would have kept private, I was excited to share because I felt so confident and beautiful in them. To me, they were art created with my body and something to be proud of, because truly loving yourself is something to always be proud of. My boudoir experience empowered me to finally wear the clothes that I wanted, to truly be a 100% myself without worrying what others thought. It was such a freeing experience, and something I wish every woman could experience.
Yup! That’s me at my Boudoir Shoot!
Photo Credit: Sheer Photography
My own experience made me fall in love with boudoir photography and pushed me to start offering it as a part of my photography business. Being able to empower women to see themselves through such a positive and life-changing light, and helping them realize their self-worth is truly an amazing experience. I want to help lift other women up and show them the queens that they really are.
My journey is the reason why I am able to go through a major life change right now without spiraling into a depression. I have grown so much as a person and continue to grow. I am finally truly embracing me and being my true and authentic self, regardless of what others may think. I have learned your body is something to be proud of and is not an object to be sexualized. You have the right to show it off to your comfort level, and if someone decides to sexualize what they see, that is on them, NOT on you! In the words of my therapist: “Do You!” And do it confidently, because there is nothing more empowering than being yourself.
For me, boudoir photography is a celebration of your body and who you truly are. I take pride in being able to help show women how to celebrate their bodies, their battles, and their victories they’ve been through. Let me show you your shine. Let me help remind you how to love and be proud of yourself!
Let’s take back our self-image and confidence, and dare to love our bodies the way they are right in this moment!